The thing is that wherever HOME is, there''ll always be the responsibilities and 'chores' to incorporate into the everyday - so even if it's idyllic/bucolic there's still life to run! (We've escaped on a 'road trip' towards Dungeness...) So it's still all about balance I guess. So much easier to say than to live it!
Between a rock and a hard place. I find myself thinking the same lately, though I’m 12 years from retirement. It would be difficult to leave my children (and eventual grandchildren), though finding a quiet retreat is certainly a priority for me. I wish you the best of luck.
I'll never leave the family - though I think it's sometimes useful to examine the unacceptable in order to allow you to focus on what is practical / acceptable. It's the same with my work in a way. Finding balance is key. - And good luck with the new project, Sam!
Yes, I feel the same at times. But I made the jump 5 years ago, leaving my husband, probably years later than was sensible! It's worked out ok though, I spend lots of time reading all the books I've amassed, knowing I no longer have to consider his food or entertainment interests (plus side), although I do have the bills to pay. And at 77 I'm past the foreign tours stage or remote country hideaways, and reaching, with malice aforethought, the old lady who says exactly what she's thinking stage. Including anti-government comments involving Gaza and genocide.......
I have a friends (male) whose recent life experiences would seem to match yours, Liz - including jumping later than ideal: he reads, walks, writes, tends his allotment, watches football etc. I know I'm not a jumper; just looking to find the right blend that keeps everyone happy.
As a grandfather at 60 (with a wife in her late 50's) with three young grandchildren ranging from infant to 5, the needs of the family unit often supersede our own plans and desires.
Absolutely. But if we exclude ourselves completely and are not personally fulfilled, maybe we don't do as well as we might for everyone... I think it's all about finding balance. Happy Grandad = happy grandchildren!
The thing is that wherever HOME is, there''ll always be the responsibilities and 'chores' to incorporate into the everyday - so even if it's idyllic/bucolic there's still life to run! (We've escaped on a 'road trip' towards Dungeness...) So it's still all about balance I guess. So much easier to say than to live it!
Between a rock and a hard place. I find myself thinking the same lately, though I’m 12 years from retirement. It would be difficult to leave my children (and eventual grandchildren), though finding a quiet retreat is certainly a priority for me. I wish you the best of luck.
I'll never leave the family - though I think it's sometimes useful to examine the unacceptable in order to allow you to focus on what is practical / acceptable. It's the same with my work in a way. Finding balance is key. - And good luck with the new project, Sam!
Yes, I feel the same at times. But I made the jump 5 years ago, leaving my husband, probably years later than was sensible! It's worked out ok though, I spend lots of time reading all the books I've amassed, knowing I no longer have to consider his food or entertainment interests (plus side), although I do have the bills to pay. And at 77 I'm past the foreign tours stage or remote country hideaways, and reaching, with malice aforethought, the old lady who says exactly what she's thinking stage. Including anti-government comments involving Gaza and genocide.......
I have a friends (male) whose recent life experiences would seem to match yours, Liz - including jumping later than ideal: he reads, walks, writes, tends his allotment, watches football etc. I know I'm not a jumper; just looking to find the right blend that keeps everyone happy.
Hope you get there soon, Ian!
As a grandfather at 60 (with a wife in her late 50's) with three young grandchildren ranging from infant to 5, the needs of the family unit often supersede our own plans and desires.
Absolutely. But if we exclude ourselves completely and are not personally fulfilled, maybe we don't do as well as we might for everyone... I think it's all about finding balance. Happy Grandad = happy grandchildren!